It is okay to be attracted to a boy
Allah swt put that in you.
You are not evil for finding a boy handsome.
That is not haraam for you to feel that way.
You have to control it.
You have to control yourself.
Our deen teach us self control.
And if you can't exhibit self control in one aspect
of your life,
you will lose self control in other aspects of life.
Same goes to you boys.
When you day dreaming about girls.
It doesn't mean that you are in love.
It just means that you haven't controlled your temptations yet.
And you are ruining somebody's life.
You are ruining an entire family.
Do you realize what you are doing?
And you call it love?
Tell me if she was like 50lbs fatter, would you still be in love?
Because she is the same person, same soul inside her jasad.
If she was a burn victim or something,
if her hand burnt off.
If her ear was missing, would you still be in love?
or you find somebody else to love, all of a sudden?
and if you can't answer that question, then honestly you're not in love.
You are just hormonal.
That's all you are.
You know.
This is what we have done to relationships that are supposed to be beautiful.
It's supposed to be a lifelong relationship.