Covid-19: Sebuah Pengalaman

Dua minggu sebelum kerajaan mengeluarkan arahan kawalan pergerakan kepada semua rakyat Malaysia, saya sudah pulang ke kampung dua minggu lebih awal. Bukan untuk bercuti, tetapi kerana saya telah diberhentikan. Saya bekerja didalam bidang perkapalan dan mengurus aktiviti eksport dari United States yang berpangkalan di Malaysia. 

Sejak bulan disember yang lalu, saya dan rakan sekerja dapat merasakan bahawa statistik 

Network Marketing: How tainted the industry is?

Ever heard network marketing or multilevel marketing (MLM). Just the sight of the alphabet M.L.M has made you feel loathed. Am I right, am I not? The fact is, multilevel company is just another type of business method to promote a product. However, MLM industry has been tainted so badly by irresponsible people who gain profit by misuse the real concept of network marketing. 

I do not deny the fact that many MLM company out there are scam. They show you bundle of money and a ferrari. They claim to earn all that in merely a month. Be it network marketing or other type of business, there is a process before you gain profit. Network marketing is not "skim cepat kaya". 

Just like a knife. If you use it to cook for your loved one, then it is good. If you use to kill people, then it is bad. What makes network marketing bad is because of irrespomsible people who misconduct. They use the platform for a wrong purpose. 

"Are you pushing people away?" No. I am not

"you will end up being lonely if you keep pushing other people away. make some friend" they say. I didn't reply because it's fine if people don't understand my situation as long as I am very clear of my principle. I do not blame or resent anyone for this differences. I embrace and appreciate these kind of people with their effort to help other people by being a good friend. 

However, do you think  being a good friend is enough to make someone feels good about themselves? I have been there -- being a good friend. However, do not look at it in a wrong way. It is a good experience that mature us. I am grateful that Allah sent those people in my life, that they grow me for who I am today. Good memories are memories just as bad memories. And when we had the good memories, why do we only focus on the bad one? 

And through these experience, I learned that life is a lonely journey. Even when you sleep next to your sister, you won't know what really happened to her, what is in her thought and how she could be possibly get hurt by her friends, or even you. Even if you tell your mom everything about you, there will always be some stories that is left untold. And no matter how much you love your spouse, there are some thoughts that you never share. 

you know, I dramatically pray, so God will send me a partner who knows everything about me. But how can it be possible when me myself, didn't fully aware and know myself. Therefore, I learn to sudy myself. Only by knowing myself, I can know, what kind of partner that I need to ensure my growth mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually and materialistically (correct ah my spelling?) 

And yes, I always get that "don't push me away". I don't push people away -- I really don't. As you grow up, you learn how to prioritize, like mastering your marketing plan is much more important than accept your friends invitation to watch movie. You go to sleep instead joining your friend's pillow talk party, because you had meeting tomorrow morning and you just do not want to spoil your mood in case you are late because you lack of sleep. When you reject the invitation, doesn't mean that you dislike that person.

"growing up is not the matter of likes or dislikes. you just do what you need to do"

"Then explain" they said. I know people care, however, even if they care about you what they can really do? They can be a good listener -- do you really think that being a good listener will help lift up the load from someone's shoulder? Unless they asked for it, yes it would help. But when they didn't say anything, don't force people to explain themselves to you when they are not obligated to do so. No matter how much we care about other people, I sincerely feel that "respect people's space" is far more important than needless kindness. 

work, side income, part time job, business plan, growth, family -- people had enough on their plate, don't add any. be respectful for people space. Learn to know you thin line between personal and private space. You may enter someone's personal space but not their private space. 

"Pity you husband" they threatened. I don't comment on this because I am confident in God's promises to me. That He will partnered me with the best man, who specially made for me. we will clique, no matter how different we are. And marriage is not the end of relationship. Marriage is an institute of endless learning about human minds and feelings. 

Anyhow, I learn that, above all -- respect. Always respect whatever decision people make for their life, because we never know what they went through, set through, prayed through and cried through. Even their decision may seem ridiculous to us, but that's that. We are not in their shoe. We can give our feedback, but we cannot force them to receive and practice our advise, because we also won't follow people advise when we feel their judgement is untrue and unfair -- for the fact that they know nothing about us. 

Therefore, keep your cool. #socialdistance and even I don't talk to you, I always keep you in my prayer. And don't try to know everything just to get hurt. Learn to give people space to set everything together, because some people road maps are tangled beyond repair. "jauh dimata tapi dekat dihati" 

"you are not okay alone, you just get used to it" I don't deny it. Perhaps, there is some truth in her assumption, but no one knows what no one knows. Focus on self betterment, so whoever that someone will be, whenever that someone will come, you are already at your best to accept him/her wholeheartedly, without regret. To be really sure, to go through a hell-roller-coaster ride together with a stranger who you barely know for few months or years -- for your lifetime. 

- end.

Accepatance: How hard it is?

Today I go out with my ex-classmate (primary school). It has been years since we met each other, but we still following each other on instagram, so we do know what they are up to now. Basic information from whatever we are showing to people. And because of my ig story about foundation, she wanted to know more about my foundation Artistry Youth Extend Foundation. We set an appointment, and we meet. 

That's not the main point actually, but I am telling because I am happy to get to see her again. why? because I always get to learn something when I meet and talk with people. If you look closely to your conversation with people, you will realise that, there is always someone's else side in you and there is always someone's else story that match your. This is because, we are all actually living and facing the same situation, but at different places, time and scale. 

She talked about her roommates (not badmouthing), we just discuss on a topic - acceptance. How we define acceptance and are we truly accept people for who they are just like what we claim to be? Deep down, you know better. There is so much things about someone that you dislike, you loath -- you just can't accept them. You said they are rude, they lack of common sense. You use every reasons possible to validate that your actual feeling & perception towards them is not wrong. That that person, is wrong! -- and just because they don't think like you, they don't dress like you and they don't share the same common sense as you. 

You ignore the fact that you both come from different region, different belief, different education background, and receive different parenting. The simplest example of doing the dishes in someone's home. When you pay a visit to your friend's house, you insist to do the dish when your friend kindly reject your offer because your friend's family do not want people to be in their kitchen -- just because. On the other hand, as someone who raised to be helpful and polite, you insist because you must set an example, because that's what are you raised up to be, how you're taught. 

of you who wanted to be helpful and your friends who do not welcome people into their kitchen, you conflicted. Even common sense is not really a common things actually. Now you realise how much the word "common sense" weighted?

Now, do you believe me if I said, when something bad happen, sometimes it is not about who is right and who is wrong. You just look at the same thing from different view and nothing is wrong with that. So, how to deal with this kind of situation. Always take the first word of what people said. If they said, don't come in, just stay outside. If they said, to leave the plates on the table, and do as you told. If people blame you for being so dimwitted, at least you are saving yourself in case they are not joking. By the way, we need to stop saying things we don't mean. If not, it will trouble us like this. 

As for me, when I at home. My mom need to give a clear direction, if not, I am doing exactly what my mom told me. I have learned to set my boundaries since I was a kid. We can never blame someone for how they grew up to be, but as long as everyone embrace the differences that we had, we can solves these conflicts. 

I asked earlier about how we sees ourselves in other people stories -- remember? You know why you are so mad of other people? simply because you cannot accept you. You don't love yourself much enough for you to accept your strength and embrace your weakness. Because once you do, you will get this realization of the concept of acceptance. You will be more open to see the difference between you and your friends. You won't question why they choose to do different things from you. You won't get mad when they don't stretch their mattress like you do. 

I guess that is the overall concept of acceptance. 

Till then. 

What I shop at my shop?

My ex-classmate, Hanis and I

She wanted to buy my foundation Artistry Youth Extend Foundation. However, the one I had is quite dark for her skin, so I asked her to choose her own color at my shop. Woman being a woman; you only intended to buy one thing but you will end up piling up everything in the basket. just like how we love a man, we intended to love one time, but we keep fall for him over and over again. -- (cringe)

Tropical Herbs Post Natal Care - Last two weeks, I give a call to my close cousin, Fauzan. His wife is expected to due in April. She's pregnant. I asked if they already prepare post natal care. This is what most husband leave up to his mother or mother in law. Gentlemen, please alert because your wife and you are in this journey together. On my way to shop (exactly two weeks after), he calls me and confirmed to buy one set. The best thing about this set is, you don't need to top up anything. A complete set for 44 days. 

Soy Protein Nutrilite - Basically my current favorite drink. because it is not only good for weight management but also for glow and fluffy skin. This one is mine, because I just finished my lost-count-bottle. DYK? Our body do not store protein, therefore we need to replenish every single day. However, there is no way that we can get enough protein through our daily diet which mostly ruined because of our stubbornness to eat junk food. I shall discipline myself. 

aren't supplement not good for your kidney? yes, if the product is not go through R&D process. The reason why I choose this brand Nutrilite is because of their expertise. Behind every tablet, there is a thousand scientist who do a continuous research to ensure you get a high quality nutritiousness supplement.   

do we really need supplements? yes we do. Ignoring supplement is like walking under the rain with broken umbrella. You feel protected but you are drenched in rain. I will talk more on nutrition thingy on specific post later on. 

Artistry Hydra V Cleanser - I started my nutrilite journey on February 2018. I started my artistry journey on January 2019. Synergy-cally, they do wonders to my skin (there will be a special post on this, you will eventually get to see my "before" photo). I started with trial pack, in tiny tiny little bottle with RM60. Wth -- so pricey, I said. But I have spend thousands to repair my face, why not spend another sixty, for one last time. And it worth all the wait. That tiny trial pack last for seven months, just imagine if I started to use the original size? This manufacturer is crazy!! Why they produce a product that can last that long, people can save so much money. How many months I don't buy skincare anymore. Lastly, on August 2019 I bought Artistry Hydra V (set; cleanser, toner & moisturize). Unfortunately I lost my cleanser, so I need to buy another one. By the way, till this day March, 2020. My toner is still half bottle full. Eight months and counting. I do a calculation, I roughly spend only RM28 per month, for premium product with this effect. I am proud for being saving-money-genius not only my parents, my husband will also proud of me. He must be feel assured if he knows that I love to save money this much :) 

Artistry Youth Extend Foundation - DYK? Once upon a time, I am an ugly duckling. I don't wear make up. Just lipstick and powder (if I remember to put some). Most day I go out bare face, unfortunately without sunblock also. That's why I am darker. There is one time in my life, when I follow my mom to Mahkota Prade (MP). She entered Watson. While waiting for her, I play around make up section. I look at the fancy lipstick on the shelves and took one. Nude color just entered the market that time. So I try one. It looks too bright on me -- my lips becomes white and powdered. I go to my mom, showing off my lipstick. she asked me what I am wearing. Judging by her looks, I wiped out my lips thinking it looks bad on me and I realised that it won't come off!!! what's wrong with this lipstick, is it smudgeproof (i don't even know this word before). I confidently walk out from the drugstore, only to know later on, that I am actually wearing concealer on my lips. From a girl who don't even know what concealer is, to a woman who can make up herself for events, Artistry has changed me a lot -- for a bigger and better purpose. 

Artistry Essential Make up Wipe - I first use this product when my cousin bought it for me. I don't ask about the price though. It's a wipe tissue and it comes in handy everytime I get so lazy to get the rag to wipe spilled coffee on the floor. I will clean my desk, my mirror with this wipe tissue not knowing that a box of it cost RM30, and it is not a normal wipe tissue!! It is a make up remover which content premium ingredients to help you remove your make up efficiently. I am so done!!! That's how people are. we never truly appreciate something until we realise its value. 

did I said anything about "don't eat junk food?", you read wrongly. 

it's lunch time